Archive for July, 2008

When it comes to venues, if it’s not the perfect place, it just doesn’t cut it. Everything needs to be PERFECT for MY wedding!

While in Michigan last month, Patrick and I went shopping for venues. And the only one we fell in love with was the only one that wasn’t on our list of established venues to scope out.

We wound up on the law quad on the campus of U of M, which happens to be one of the prettiest places I’ve been. The courtyard is surrounded on all sides by old brick buildings covered in ivy. The sun peeks through the trees and provides the most ideal lighting for an outdoor wedding. Plus, the aisle is REALLY long. I mean REALLY REALLY long. And, if I only get to walk down the aisle once, I am going to milk it as long as I can. It’s the longest of many stone paths leading to a circle that would be the perfect place for an arch. The backdrop would be one of the many old buildings, which is so beautiful. We could rent white folding chairs, which would really pop against the bold green grass. Plus, have I mentioned the aisle?

Here’s a picture of the aisle taken from the stone circle:

This would be the beautiful backdrop for the ceremony:


As for the reception? We’ve got a year to figure that out. :)



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A long engagement

While no date is set in stone, Patrick and I are planning on having a long engagement. Right now, we’re planning for a wedding in the late spring 2010. While we know it’s a long way off, and we’re as eager as ever, we need more time to save up money for a wedding and a nest egg. We want to start our marriage off as happily – and securely – as we’re able to. We’re going to enjoy the many months of slowly planning and enjoy each step along the way. And, while it would be nice to just elope and get it over with, Patrick understands that I’ve been dreaming of the perfect wedding for most of my life. When the time comes, it will be perfect. And we couldn’t be more thrilled to be in this stage of our lives!

Thanks for all the encouragement. And when the time comes, we’ll announce the date.



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Announcements are OUT!

We’re nearing the end of the fourth month of our engagement, and we finally have mailed out our announcements to spread the news that we’re engaged. If this is any indication as to how the rest of our wedding will go, we’ll mail the invitations out after the ceremony.

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My first wedding dress experience happened on a Thursday. I walked into the salon thirty minutes before my appointment. Yes, this was the first time in my life I had been early to anything. I’ve slept through job interviews and waltzed in late to every class I’ve ever taken. I didn’t even get to see the ceremony of my friends’ wedding, but this time, I was early.

The salon was just what I expected, classy and good smelling with a touch of snooty. I went to the receptionist’s desk, gave my name and was told to look around for just a bit while my consultant finished up another appointment. I became aware of the soft music playing just as I spun around, which, as soon as I spotted the dresses I recognized to be Etta James’s “At Last.” A smile took shape on my face, goosebumps filled every patch of skin on my body and I (somewhat) gracefully leapt into the showroom. And, as Etta James sang to me, I knew I was home.

Those close to me understand this story because they know I’ve been planning my wedding since birth. For those who are not close to me, you must understand that I sprung from the womb carrying a Martha Stewart wedding planner and a handful of silk, organza, lace and tulle fabric samples.

This experience was one of the greatest of my life. Who would have ever though that playing dress up could actually be this joyful?

As per the instructions of my consultant, I surveyed the store searching for a gown I liked in each of the different styles and silhouettes. Just before we went into the fitting room, I spotted another, and asked if I could take that one along too.

“You’re welcome to try on anything you’d like,” she said, and then I knew that the next words out of her mouth were going to break my heart. “This is a Lazaro dress, and they’re a bit pricey.” That’s like saying that the bitter cold of the icy tundra is “a bit chilly.” I suppose I shouldn’t have tried on a dress I didn’t feel comfortable falling in love with, a dress that I would later find out costs nearly six thousand dollars. But I tried it on, fell in love, and wanted to marry that dress more than I wanted to marry Patrick.

From then on, my mission was clear: Find the version of this dress that is within my price range.

The next day I went searching at another bridal boutique after work. I left, sans wedding dress, filled with discouragement. I’d begun to believe that I wouldn’t find anything comparable to that designer dress. It didn’t help when the bridal consultant and the second boutique told me I’d have to buy a dress from a couture line if I wanted the cut and style I was looking for. She told me I had expensive taste, and I punched her in the ear. Then I left, wishing a stranger would approach me on the street and hand me a $6,000 wad of cash.

My friend and bridesmaid, Krystle, came into town for a visit late that night. I had recruited her to be my partner in Operation: Vision in White. We drove for hours to a boutique near Tampa. And, after trying on dress after dress, I found it. I found the next best thing to that Lazaro dress, and I actually liked it better than the original.

Now, more than ever, I’m looking forward to making my grand entrance. I think “At Last” will echo in my head that day. Amen, Etta James.


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I’m always on top of things. I’m really good at quickly and thoroughly completing menial tasks.

So, when the idea of planning a wedding started to creep around the corner it didn’t faze me.

I’ve heard horror stories about wedding planning but so far I’m enjoying it. Whitney always has good ideas but goes terminally psychotic when it comes to making “tough” decisions. I’ve learned that’s where I step in and all is well.

We’re still almost two years away from the Big Day so, Whitney and I are still in the very early stages of our to-do list. Up first: Engagement announcements. I’m a little clueless when it comes to all things wedding. Whitney, in her anxiety-ridden crazy lady hair all over the place psycho way, does her best to guide me through what things we should do.

We made it through the designing and printing of our photo engagement announcements (albeit slowly) and the next step was easy, right? Find some decent looking envelopes in which our 4″x6″ announcements would fit snugly. Well would you believe that no big-box, niche, mom & pop or hole-in-the-wall office supplies store carries the A6 size envelope?!! It was as if someone knew I was out to find one hundred or so A6 envelopes and carefully extracted them from every Staples, Office Depot, Office Max, Kinko’s, Wal-Mart, Target, CVS and Walgreens in the greater Orlando area.

After weeks, yes, weeks, I finally broke down and ordered the envelopes online. The whole goal was to avoid the shipping charges, but, to no avail. I, alone, have depleted the country’s oil supply more than entire state of South Dakota during my envelope extravaganza.

Now, I have only this to say: Anything awful you’ve ever heard about planning a wedding…it’s true. But at least I get to go through all of this stuff with the love of my life.


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